At the funeral
Can we carry the coffin?
If you and your family would like to carry your loved one’s coffin then we can arrange this – anyone can carry the coffin, if they so wish. We would give a briefing to ensure that everyone is prepared, and we will be on hand to help at all times. It is generally considered an honour to be asked to carry the coffin as a last act of service to the person who has died. However, there is no pressure to do so – carrying the coffin is not something that everyone wants to do and there is no right or wrong. Remembrance can arrange for our own bearers to carry the coffin and we can also use a special bier to wheel in the coffin.
Is the coffin cremated with my loved one?
Yes. After a final check to make sure all your wishes for your loved one have been met, the coffin is sealed before it has left the funeral directors for the crematorium, and the deceased cannot be removed.
What is a eulogy?
A eulogy is when someone pays tribute to a person’s life by saying a few words that will help remember that person at the service. You can prepare a speech yourself, or you may prefer to read a favourite poem or passage. The eulogy could be given by a Celebrant, family, friends or work colleagues and could even be a letter written by your loved one, read out during the service. There is no requirement for family members to speak during a funeral service and no one should feel under pressure to do so.
Should I wear black at the funeral?
Different faiths and cultures have different approaches to what should be worn to a funeral. Black is the traditional worn colour at a funeral, but there are now an increasing number of requests for mourners to wear alternative colours, whether that be a favourite colour to reflect their personality or bright colours to celebrate their life
Does a cremation take place immediately after the service?
Where possible, the cremation usually takes place within a few hours after the service and under guidelines drawn up by the ICCM (Institute of Cemetery and Crematorium Management) always within 72 hours.